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This past weekend I attended my nephew’s wedding in Sarasota. It was a beautiful wedding, and we had the best time celebrating with Bryan’s family. I have never been an emotional person at weddings because I just see it as such a joyous occasion. I always love to listen to the person officiating the ceremony because I like to hear how they tailor their message to the bride and groom. I love to hear the stories, metaphors/analogies, words of encouragement, and little insights they can give us about the new couple. The priest that oversaw this wedding really stood out to me. He made us laugh, smile and brought out some tears (even for me..) but the one thing he stated that truly resonated with me was his to-do list for the bride and groom.
Number one on his last was for the bride and groom to remember to date one another…to remember why you fell in love and to never let that light dim. This may seem like a simple food for thought but he struck a chord with me. Mainly, because this is something my pastor said to us when we were going through marriage counseling prior to our wedding. Pastor Carter stated that we should have a date night every week. He continued that the night did not need to be expensive and didn’t have to mean leaving the house, just intimate time dedicated to one another.
At the time, it seemed like an easy thing to do. Then life happens and before you know it, you cannot remember the last time you went on a date or just practiced dating one another. I feel like I am writing this to you, my readers, but also writing this as a reminder for myself. It is so easy to get caught up in the daily routine. We can be so career driven and focused on planting seeds of success that spend too much time watering the wrong areas of our life. They say that the first step in solving a problem is recognizing there is one. Although there is a lot of love in my relationship, we could definitely do better to nurture that love. I remember when we were in the pandemic, and like everyone else, we had to quarantine. We had nothing but time to spend with one another. We played board games, watched movies, worked out, took long walks, cooked together and so much more. We dated one another every single day. It was beautiful and so beneficial for our relationship. As we slowly came out of that pandemic, we jumped right back into the things that distracted us from one another.
My nephew’s wedding gave us the gift of family and time; but also, a beautiful and meaningful reminder to reconnect and to do so through dating. I know that remembering to date one another in marriage builds better communication, bonding, attraction, affection and gratitude for your significant other. Unlike most people, I can always go back to the exact moment I met Bryan. I can re-watch our love story unfold. I can pinpoint the moment we said, “I love you” and our engagement is captured forever on video for the show. Even though I can go back and revisit these moments, I never want to forget the feelings behind those events and our love story.
I get asked a lot of questions about relationships. I am not an expert, but I am experienced. My understanding has taught me that you always have to remember the why behind your relationship and do whatever it takes to get back and stay in that place.
Be sure to check out my highlight reel from the wedding on Instagram, @therachlindsay
I am open to suggestions for fun and creative date nights! Let’s put some ideas in the comment section not just for me but the one in the Honestly Rach community that needed this article!
Xo Honestly, Rach